{"id":401149,"date":"2021-09-14T21:42:23","date_gmt":"2021-09-14T18:42:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kinsta.unitedwithisrael.org\/?p=401149"},"modified":"2021-09-15T14:24:19","modified_gmt":"2021-09-15T11:24:19","slug":"yom-kippour-accorder-le-pardon-sans-quon-nous-le-demande","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kinsta.unitedwithisrael.org\/fr\/yom-kippour-accorder-le-pardon-sans-quon-nous-le-demande\/","title":{"rendered":"Yom Kippour: accorder le pardon sans qu’on nous le demande"},"content":{"rendered":"

Nous connaissons tous l’importance de demander pardon avant Yom Kippour \u00e0 ceux que nous avons peut-\u00eatre bless\u00e9s ou offens\u00e9s. La Torah explique que le jour de Yom Kippour, nous ne serons PAS pardonn\u00e9s pour les offenses contre les autres, \u00e0 moins que nous ne leur demandions d’abord pardon.<\/p>\n

Et il est aussi tr\u00e8s important de savoir pardonner. (Nous faisons r\u00e9f\u00e9rence au pardon social – amis, proches, coll\u00e8gues – et non au pardon politique ou criminel). Quand quelqu’un s’excuse aupr\u00e8s de nous de nous avoir offens\u00e9s, etc. nous devons \u00eatre pr\u00eats \u00e0 pardonner et \u00e0 oublier.<\/p>\n

Maintenant, que se passe-t-il lorsque quelqu’un m’a offens\u00e9 ou bless\u00e9 et ne s’est pas approch\u00e9, n’a pas appel\u00e9 ou n’a pas \u00e9crit pour pr\u00e9senter ses excuses ? Pouvons-nous pardonner aux autres de nous-m\u00eames, ou devons-nous attendre qu’ils demandent pardon ?<\/p>\n

Il y a une diff\u00e9rence fondamentale entre demander pardon et accorder le pardon. Le pardon peut se faire unilat\u00e9ralement. \u00c9videmment, il est plus satisfaisant et plus juste pour la personne qui m’a offens\u00e9 de s’excuser sinc\u00e8rement et humblement. Mais on sait bien ce que \u00e7a co\u00fbte de demander pardon ! Beaucoup de gens sont timides ou ont trop de barri\u00e8res psychologiques, comme la fiert\u00e9 ou une tr\u00e8s faible estime d’eux-m\u00eames, ce qui les emp\u00eache d’assumer leurs mauvaises actions et de s’excuser…<\/p>\n

Et pourtant, nous pouvons et devons pardonner.<\/p>\n

Le vrai pardon inclut \u00e9galement la capacit\u00e9 d’oublier. Je ne veux pas oublier compl\u00e8tement la mauvaise exp\u00e9rience, car d’ailleurs nous devons ch\u00e9rir ce que nous avons appris de nos mauvaises exp\u00e9riences. Je veux dire oublier dans le sens de se lib\u00e9rer de la haine et des sentiments de ressentiment et de vengeance qu’une offense ou un dommage \u00e9motionnel a pu \u00e9veiller en nous. Lorsque nous sommes pi\u00e9g\u00e9s par le ressentiment et que nous ne parvenons pas \u00e0 \u00e9liminer ces sentiments n\u00e9gatifs de notre syst\u00e8me psychologique, nous nous faisons beaucoup de mal. Lorsque nous devenons obs\u00e9d\u00e9s par l’id\u00e9e de \u00ab faire payer quelqu’un \u00bb pour ses offenses, nous accordons \u00e0 celui qui nous a offens\u00e9 l’\u00e9norme pouvoir de prendre le contr\u00f4le de notre esprit et de nos \u00e9motions.<\/p>\n

Comme nous le verrons ci-dessous, les Hahamim (Sages du Talmud) nous ont appris que le fait de pardonner profite grandement \u00e0 celui qui pardonne. Dans Masejet Megil\u00e1 28a, nous lisons que les \u00e9l\u00e8ves du tr\u00e8s vieux Ribb\u00ed Nejuny\u00e1 ben haQan\u00e1 ont demand\u00e9 \u00e0 leur professeur : \u00ab En vertu de quoi as-tu v\u00e9cu tant de jours ?<\/em>\u00a0\u00bb Et il a r\u00e9pondu : \u00ab Je n’ai jamais port\u00e9 les offenses de mon voisin dans mon lit<\/em>.\u00a0\u00bb Et c’est ainsi que Mor Zutr\u00e1 expliquait ses paroles : Chaque soir, lorsqu’il se couchait, Ribb\u00ed Nejuny\u00e1 disait : \u00ab Je pardonne \u00e0 tous ceux qui m’ont offens\u00e9.<\/em>\u00a0\u00bb<\/p>\n

En d’autres termes : Chaque soir avant d’aller dormir, Rabbi Nejunya accordait le pardon aux autres m\u00eame si les autres ne venaient pas s’excuser. Il leur a pardonn\u00e9 de sa propre initiative. Cette exon\u00e9ration unilat\u00e9rale, entre autres, a lib\u00e9r\u00e9 Rabbi Nejunya des effets destructeurs de la haine et du ressentiment et, comme nous le voyons, a eu un impact positif sur la dur\u00e9e (et probablement aussi la qualit\u00e9) de sa vie.<\/p>\n

Il y a une belle Tefillah (pri\u00e8re), inspir\u00e9e de l’exemple de Rabbi Nechunya ben haQana trouv\u00e9 dans tous les Siddurim (livres de pri\u00e8re) de la section Qeriyat Shema ‘al haMita, le Shema Yisrael avant de dormir.<\/p>\n

Le texte suivant est un extrait de cette Tefillah, que nous disons tous les soirs avant d’aller dormir.<\/p>\n

Ribbono shel ‘olam. C’est une tr\u00e8s bonne id\u00e9e de le dire avant Yom Kippour et ainsi de \u00ab\u00a0pardonner\u00a0\u00bb unilat\u00e9ralement tous ceux qui ont pu nous offenser ou nous blesser \u00e9motionnellement. Apr\u00e8s tout, \u00e0 Yom Kippour, nous demandons \u00e0 HaShem de nous pardonner et \u00ab d’oublier \u00bb nos m\u00e9faits. Pardonner aux autres nous rendra sans aucun doute plus m\u00e9ritants le pardon divin.<\/p>\n

.. \u00ab\u00a0Ma\u00eetre de l’Univers! Voici, je pardonne \u00e0 tous ceux qui m’ont bless\u00e9 ou offens\u00e9. Que leur offense ait \u00e9t\u00e9 contre ma personne ou mon honneur, ou s’ils m’avaient bless\u00e9 mat\u00e9riellement ou de toute autre mani\u00e8re. Que leurs mauvaises actions envers moi aient \u00e9t\u00e9 commises involontairement ou d\u00e9lib\u00e9r\u00e9ment, par n\u00e9gligence ou avec pr\u00e9m\u00e9ditation, par des paroles ou des actions physiques… Voici, je pardonne \u00e0 tous les juifs. Et je Te demande, HaShem, que personne ne soit puni \u00e0 cause de moi… \u00ab\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

Par : Rabbi Yosef Bitton, contributeur sp\u00e9cial pour Unis avec Isra\u00ebl.<\/em><\/p>\n

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